Welcome to the 360 View.

Find out here about our 2009 Workshop Series at the Santa Barbara Athletic Club--Third Thursdays with 360.

 

Wednesday
11Mar2009

Third Thursdays with 360—Your Own Personal Happy Hour and a Half!

 

Every month you'll get 90 doable minutes of compelling, original, practical inspiration to give you the learning and momentum you need to sustain and accomplish your goals with topics ranging from exercise, relationships, money and life balance, to life purpose, leadership and parenting.

Third Thursdays with 360 is open to the public as well as Santa Barbara Athletic Club members so invite your friends.  Non-members receive a free day pass to the club, so pamper yourself with a workout and a sauna before or after your workshop!

 

March 2009 -Unveiling the Inevitable You—Your Key to Happiness, Success and Fulfillment

Join coaches Jan Ruskin and Nica Guinn to find out why the commitments to yourself are the first to go and how you can change that to create the life you most want to live.

  • Date: Thursday, March 19
  • Time: 7 to 8:30 p.m.
  • Cost: $20 Club Members • $30 Non-Members

 
Click here to take a look at what else is on the schedule.

 

Saturday
10Jan2009

Are You Craving Balance?

Why are you craving balance?

Many of us spend week after week, month after month doing tasks, running errands, completing assignments, and moving at cheetah speed. Yet we hold a picture in our hearts and minds of what our lives would look like if we were making conscious, integrated, values-based choices. We see our work as fulfilling and meaningful, our children in the colleges of their choice, our relationships nurtured and flourishing, our bodies healthy and alive. We see birthdays remembered, and countries visited. We also see the world changed, lives altered, wrongs righted, problems solved.

So how do you get there? By making consistent choices that honor your values. Period. And here's a fabulously practical, life-changing choice you can make right now. Join coaches Lisa Gates and Beth Gordon of Craving Balance Coaching for a daylong workshop:

Goal Setting from the Inside Out

Goal Setting from the Inside Out is a workshop built around a sensible, soulful, repeatable process to get your life balance integrated by connecting your vision with your values, and your values with your choices. Here's what you can expect to accomplish:

  • Get in step with who you really are by identifying your values.
  • Uncover the vision you have for your life.
  • Create declarations, goals and actions in every area of your life.
  • Connect your values to your daily choices.
  • Put only what's important to you on your daily schedule.
  • Generate ongoing accountability structures to assure your success.
  • Learn how to say no, and when to say yes.
  • Stop managing your busyness and start living your life.

Saturday, January 31, 2009

9 a.m. to 3 p.m.

Inn of the Spanish Gardens

915 Garden Street, Santa Barbara

Please click here to register!

Tuesday
23Dec2008

Third Thursdays with 360 at SBAC

Third Thursdays with 360 at the Santa Barbara Athletic Club

Imagine hitting the ground running in 2009 with goals that actually make it onto your daily schedule. We'll kick off our new workshop series, Third Thursdays with 360 at the Santa Barbara Athletic Club with a special goal-setting workshop on Sunday, January 18, 2009 from 10 a.m. to 4 p.m., and continue each month thereafter on the third Thursday of the month from 6:30 to 8 p.m.

Third Thursdays with 360—Your Own Personal Happy Hour and a Half!

Every month you'll get 90 doable minutes of compelling, original, practical inspiration to give you the learning and momentum you need to sustain and accomplish your goals with topics ranging from exercise, relationships, money and life balance, to life purpose, leadership and parenting. Third Thursdays with 360 is open to the public as well as Santa Barbara Athletic Club members so invite your friends.

Click here to take a look at what's on the schedule.

To register, click here!

Tuesday
23Dec2008

The Promise Project November 22, 2008

Just before Thanksgiving, we took The Promise Project out on the streets of Santa Barbara again. In case you're curious about creating taking the Promise Project out for a spin on the streets of your home town, here's how we do it:

What is the Promise Project?

Simply stated, the Promise Project is about making a personal promise in exchange for a piece of jewelry that catches your eye. Any piece of jewelry, any promise. The jewelry has been donated and collected so there is absolutely no exchange of money. Just a promise.

Choose something for yourself or for someone you love. Write your promise down, have one of us sign to affirm your promise, and it’s yours! We don’t have to read it if you don’t want us to—but we do have to sign it. It’s part of the deal. It’s part of what gives your promise power.

Here's what people shared with us on November 22, 2008:

I promise…

…to be more tolerant of Harry’s crazy ideas. - Debby

…to love with a soulful heart…always. - Stefanie

…to wake up ever day and be good. - Katrina

…to stay true to myself and to get my life back on track. That means to stay out of jail and stop breaking my mother’s heart. – Lee

…to make my grandpa proud. - Anonymous

…to not give my mom attitude about going to school everyday. - Anonymous

…to always tell the truth. – Sophie

…this year to have a good life each moment. And I promise to look for and get a good job this year or next year. – Hiram

…to help people with Developmental Disabilities. To help them in leading them to a better future. To do everything I can through people first in Santa Barbara. To lead others in becoming leaders in self advocacy. To be the best leader I can be. – Steven

…to try my best to treat others with compassion, patience, understanding and respect. I will donate hand made jewelry. - Anonymous

…to believe in myself. To have faith. To eat healthy. To be strong. – Rosemary

…to save money and get a job by Dec. 1st. – Marley

…that I will think before I speak - specifically with my family. – Julie

…to never give up on playing the flute. – Ariana, 12

What do you promise?

Thursday
20Nov2008

Tea Fire Donations

Thank you for taking a moment to make a contribution to those in our community (and extended community) who have lost their homes due to the Tea Fire.

We are accepting donations for:

  • Liz and Chris Townley
  • Alexandra Cole
  • Cara and Bob Peace

The amazing people in our community have been extremely generous with donations of clothing and furniture and everything under the sun, and we thought that generating a little cash here would be a good thing too.

You may continue to bring in-kind contributions to Deb and Craig Dobbin's home. For address and directions please contact:

Gail Hodes: 707.484.1887 or Lisa Gates: 805.448.4020

No donation is too large or too small, and you don't need to be a PayPal "member" to make a contribution. You can use your debit or credit card. Just click on the blue swirly logo below and you'll be redirected to PayPal.

Blessings!

 


Tea Fire Donation

Thursday
30Oct2008

Craving Balance?

In addition to their work with 360 Alliance, Lisa Gates and Beth Gordon have a biz and new adventure, including a fabulously workshop coming up. Check it out:

Craving Balance

Fabulously Sensible Coaching for Smart Working Women


How Do We Do Less and Be More?

Living in balance starts with showing up for yourself. It doesn’t mean longer to-do-lists, fewer hours of sleep or getting anywhere near the word perfect. In fact it means integrating all that's important to you, and doing less by getting much more selective about what you say yes to and when to say no. In a word, choice.

Craving Balance Workshop

Imagine leaving 2008 behind, and getting the inspiration and tools to create 2009 as your best year ever?

  •   Get in step with who you really are by identifying your values.
  •   Get back in touch with the vision you have for your life.
  •   Define your commitments, goals and actions in every area of your life.
  •   Connect your values to your daily actions and choices.
  •   Put only what's important to you on your daily schedule.
  •   Generate personal accountability like never before.
  •   Learn how to say no, and when to say yes.

Stop managing your busy-ness and start living your life.

  • Saturday, November 15, 2008
  • 9 a.m. to 4 p.m.
  • $85

Click here to register over at Craving Balance.

 

Monday
27Oct2008

How to Share Your Promise Project Promises

If you've participated in The Promise Project, we welcome your feedback and invite you to share with everyone the results of your promise. Here are but a few that were made last Saturday in Santa Barbara.

I promise...

"To love April and to stay with her as long as she wants me"~ Robert

"To have more faith in myself" ~ Nikki

"To write something every day & to kiss my husband passionately even when I'm cranky or upset" ~ Barbara

"To meet 10 new people over the next 90 days & empact and empower them to have the best life ever in the next 12 months" ~ Anonymous

"I wil come out of my shell and ask 100 strangers to let me photograph them in the next 12 months" ~ Simone

"To keep my rom clean" ~ Ava 4yrs old

"To the Lord, that when I meet someone to try to make them a better them" ~ Robert

"To believe in God's love for me" ~ Tony

"To be more understanding toward one another & to be a positive influence on one another" ~ Jessica & Tariq

"To listen to my heart, honor my own self worth and to dedicate my life to helping other people in need live better lives" ~ Lisa

Thank you everyone. This is how transformation happens...and perhaps even magic. It all begins with a promise. Feel free to share your thoughts by posting a comment.

 

Jan Ruskin

Tamra Rutherford

Monday
27Oct2008

The Promise Project Debuts in Santa Barbara

Saturday afternoon. We set up a small table set up outside Borders Books on State Street in Santa Barbara. A table with some jewelry on it. Some of it quite beautiful. All of it donated.

Why were we there? We were inspired to see what would happen if we offered jewelry to people in exchange for a promise. A promise instead of money.

We didn't get much attention at first and, in fact, we were barely noticed by those walking by. So we engaged.

"We're giving away jewelry for a promise," we said. "For free. It doesn't cost any money. Really." "If something catches your eye, all you have to do is make a promise and it's yours."

WE knew what we meant and we thought the terms were simple and clear. Not so, apparently, to the skeptical and conditioned consumer on the streets of Santa Barbara.

They fished for our "hidden agenda", our ulterior motive. "What organization are you with?" "What's the promise? "Who's it for?" "What's the catch?"

Why were we there? "Promises can change your life," we answered. "It's a great way to recycle old jewelry and it's a cool idea, don'tcha think?"

Then it came. The softening. The shift. The small movement from conditioned thinking to in-the-moment choice.

Resistance turned to curiosity; cynicism to trust. People started looking. They let down their guard. They began to promise. Each one perfect and meaningful to the one who made it.


Gabriel, 4-years-old. He picked out a pair of skeleton earrings for his mom to wear for Halloween. He promised to load the dishwasher and hug her every day.

Scott, a quiet and thoughtful teenager. He selected a piece of jewelry for his mom too. He wrote down his promise. "To live my life to the fullest and to do right by my loved ones."

Hannah, a girl of 11 or 12. A pair of earrings that looked sweet with her red braids and braces. "I promise to always think of myself as a beautiful person."

Marco, a man who approached our table even after we deliberately distanced ourselves from the political message he was representing that afternoon. He wanted to make a promise. He was ready for someone to hear his personal declaration. He shared what he was up to in his life. That he was two weeks away from a year's sobriety. That he wanted to stay sober for his daughter but knew he needed to do it for himself. His promise? "To remember where I came from."


There were many promises made that afternoon. Lots of pretty jewelry given in exchange.

Why were we there?

For Gabriel? Or Scott? For Hannah. Or Marco? Maybe.

We set up a table and sold jewelry for promises. We witnessed courage and trust coming from people we didn't know. We met people with hopes and dreams. People with challenges and doubts. People willing to look inside for a promise they could make to better their lives.

Because we were there.

Care to join the promise project?

Jan Ruskin

Tuesday
14Oct2008

Make a promise and change your world with The Promise Project


What is the Promise Project?

Simply stated, the Promise Project is about making a personal promise in exchange for a piece of jewelry that catches your eye. Any piece of jewelry, any promise. The jewelry has been donated and collected so there is absolutely no exchange of money. Just a promise.

Choose something for yourself or for someone you love. Write your promise down, have one of us sign to affirm your promise, and it’s yours! We don’t have to read it if you don’t want us to—but we do have to sign it. It’s part of the deal. It’s part of what gives your promise power.

The Promise Project was originated by Sylvia Casberg of Solvang. Sylvia is a grandma who likes to make people happy. One morning, Sylvia had this great idea about how to give away her old jewelry and make people happy at the same time and the Promise Project was born.

Well, the coaches at 360 Alliance thought it was pretty cool so we asked Sylvia if we could bring it to the world. Sylvia said “yes” and here we are! We will be in front of Santa Barbara's Borders Bookstore on Saturday, October 24 from 11 a.m. to 1 p.m. We invite you to join us with your promise.


The promise you make may change your life, perhaps the world.  What can you promise?

Sunday
01Jun2008

Love The One You’re With: Reviving Relationship Intimacy

Relationship has a higher purpose.

  • BE what you want to HAVE.
  • Limiting perceptions inhibit authentic connection.
  • Agreements are a basic requirement for relationship workability.

There you have it. The Readers’ Digest version of the workshop: Love The One You’re With (#5 in our 8-week series in Santa Barbara) lead by 360 coaches Maggie Rauen and Tamra Rutherford.

Relationship.

Could there be a more complex, stimulating and well, upsetting topic? Unfortunately, much of the upset is because we bring a whole bag full of myths, beliefs and considerations which inform our idea of what relationship SHOULD be and as a result, we come into them with unreasonable expectations. Consider this statement:

When I’m in your presence, I want you to love me unconditionally.

Seems reasonable right? I mean, who doesn’t want that? It’s at the core of our personalities to long for acceptance and the safety that results from being free from rejection and disapproval. There’s only one problem.

It’s a trap!!!

It’s virtually impossible for most of us (those not yet enlightened) to love someone unconditionally when we can’t even love ourselves without conditions. You need only look at the self-help section of your local bookstore to realize just how judging we are of our authentic selves. It seems to me that living this belief is disappointment and upset waiting to happen.

Try this: When I’m in your presence, I want you to love yourself unconditionally.

Wow. Now that’s a supportive position if I’ve ever heard one. This is having the deepest possible wish for freedom and fulfillment for my partner. And taken as a guideline, I can return to this intention each time I start making it all-about-me again (which happens a lot BTW).

If relationship has a higher purpose than just getting my needs met, what else could it be about? Yes, I know…romance, companionship, family….all fine expressions of primary relationship. Maybe it’s just me, but I want more. I’m up to something bigger. I want to be conscious. To become all that I can be in this life. I’m a human being….evolving is what we do!

The possibility that I can actually have a partner in this undertaking is thrilling beyond measure. And just what is it that causes me to grow, stretch, and transcend the limits of my personality the most? Yep, conflict. Getting rubbed the wrong way. Now you gotta KNOW that the person who is most likely to push my buttons and call me forth is my mate right? That and my kids (but that’s another post).

I dislike conflict and upset as much as the next gal…but I’m onto myself. I know that it is my partner’s job to annoy the crap out of me (though hopefully not full time). My job? To do the same with him. And what is our intention? To recognize that problems are not really problems. Issues will surface, upsets will come and go – sometimes again and again. What we are actually doing together is inviting the other to become bigger than all that. To choose to love each other again and again – every single time.

If it sounds like every time we have a conflict I am delighted, then I’ve misled you. The truth is I’m practicing. I’m learning. Sometimes I succeed and other times I fail miserably. That’s the point.

Relationship has a higher purpose.

I call it my spiritual practice. My man...he calls it Disneyland for Adults. What do you call it? What context or metaphor describes what you are up to in your relationship? Is it your Workout? Post-graduate school? A Never-ending Gobstopper?
I’d love to know.

~ Tamra Rutherford